Ok baby... I heard you

Disclaimer: The following post is a stroll down memory lane. Oh... And can somebody please tell me if ONLY Deltas are invited to The South Atlantic Regional Conference's Step Show in Charleston on Friday, August 5th? Because yall know I'm hosting it and my next ex happens to be a Sigma Gamma Rho and she wants to come support. Welp: Here it goes:

Last year, I was talking to one of my homegirls on some potential "I want her" type ish. But she knew me for a long time, so she knew my ways. (Ahem, I mean, old ways.) This was proving to be more work than I bargained for at the time. But I decided to be "serious" because I knew I wanted that quality when I was done with just being ratchet outchea. She came to see me at work. And I was giving her WAAAAYYYYY too many compliments and overdosin on looking in her eyes and ish.
So she like, "Dukes? Really? So, what are you saying?"
On some desert thirsty type ish my response was, "I'm saying that you are beautiful inside and out. With a great heart and you have your head on straight. I would drop ALL my "friends" to talk to you.
"Seriously Dukes?"
"Seriously..."
"Boi... Stop. I've never seen you serious about anything, but that."
And she pointed at the 107.3 Jamz tent. "You mean work?"
"Yep..."

I stepped back and thought about it. Dang... That's as real as it gets. Work is ny life. That's what I enjoy doing. Two things I love... 1.) Santa Clause 2.) Making money. And the best thing about making money is that I'm doing what I love. But why is work so "fun" to me? 1.) It's my Passion and purpose. And 2.) You get out what you out in. If I keep at it, then success HAS to come. You can't be a bug a boo when it's your career. If you want a job and you call the manager EVERY SINGLE DAY for an entire month and they STILL say, "We're not hiring right now", then when a position finally does become available, bet money you will be the FIRST person they call. Yall have no clue how many doors were slammed in my face and I just stood there until they opened them again, how many gigs I had to take for "free", how many people told me, "No... No... No... Damn, ok. YEA!" Because if I can get my foot in the door then you will see the Passion that I have and you won't regret it!

But since I started this post with a "situation", let's end it with one. When it comes to two people, "work" is in no way comparable to any "situation". Why? Because you NEVER get out what you put in! I used to think that, but Nah... You get out what the other person is willing to give. (Think on that for a minute) No matter how hard you "work", you can't tell another person how to feel about you. Tank has a song out right now that says, "I can't make you love me... If you don't." Damn Tank all in his feelings and ish. But that's real! No matter what you do and how often you do it, your personal feelings do NOT reflect how the other person feels. Back to communication.

And I see now how females f&%$ up. Check: take what the MOTHA F-ER says. No interpretation. Black and white, and if the outcome is not pleasant, then they should have meant what they said. Ladies, if you ask your dude, "Dang... Babe, what we doing?" And his response is, "You know I care about you bae" kisses you on your forehead and walks away. Take it for THAT! Females be too busy trying to interpret ish. If you have female friends, then you know what I'm talking about. Pay attention to their conversations when they're going through.

"So, Dukes... We haven't talked in three days, but be just texted me. I guess everything is ok now."
"What he say?"
"Look... 'Well... I DO have to work in the morning, but if you suckin and f*&%in' I will come through."
And after they tell you the WHOLE story, the next question is ALWAYS, "Now, what u think that mean?"

HUH? ARE YOU READING THE SAME SHIT I'M READING????? I guess I'm supposed to say, "That means he's sorry for not calling. He was busy because you know his grandma is sick. But even though he will be tired, he still wants to come over and make passionate love tonight." Nooooooooooooo... B?*&%! That means, "If you are putting your mouth on his penis and letting him hit it from the back, he will be there at 10pm Sharp, if not, he's taking his ass to BED!" No grey area. That was black and white! A while back, I told my homegirl about a situation and her response was, "Don't be sad... I think she means..." WHOA! *Jamie Foxx hand* EEEEEEEERRRRRR.... NO B?*%$! Stop right there. ARE YOU READING THE SAME SHIT I'M READING* It is what it is... *drops mic*

Summary:

1.) Take it for what it is...
2.) Grey areas really don't exist.
3.) Don't take my advice.
4.) Church hugs are of the devil.
5.) Follow me on Twitter @jaydukes1911

Jay Dukes aka Mr. Million Dollars aka Mr. "Hey... You Look Familiar"